Lets start with a bit of backstory-
Being that this is number 2, I was under the impression that
I had the whole pregnancy thing down pact. I. was. SO. wrong. This whole pregnancy was spades different
from Squish. She was the epitome of an
easy pregnancy. Only mild nausea for like a week, no aches or pains, only went
to the potty a few times a night.
Wonderful.
But this guy, this
guy had it out for me from conception.
First of all, I knew I was pregnant a week after it happened. This is too early for a pregnancy test to
detect, you need at least 9 days past your ovulation date, I knew at 5. No
lie. He was already cramping my
style. So, after actually getting a + on
a test, things spiraled out of control quickly. LOL. The first tri was all
about nausea, and eating. If I went
longer than 5 minutes without eating, I was super sick. I never actually threw up, which was fine by
me, but sitting around at work GREEN all day was still pretty awful. Once we hit the 2nd tri, things
were spades better. Everyone commented
on how nice I still looked (apparently I went to crap with Squish), and how I
was still in heels, etc.
Then we got to the 3rd tri, and someone made it
point to hit me with a bag of bricks daily.
Then at about 36 weeks, the bag
of bricks moved from beating me to sitting very, very, veeery, low in my
pelvis. Oh, and hitting all around my
insides now. I was up every hour and
half or so at night. It hurt to walk anywhere
and I knew, just KNEW every day was “the” day because I had constant
Braxton-Hicks, something I never experienced with number 1.
Finally, after everyone was at the point of saying how
shocked they were that I was still pregnant, I woke up on Monday Oct, 22 (5
days before my due date)with regular cramps.
These cramps were different than the normal Braxton-Hicks I had been
having for a month. I got up, and got
dressed to go to work, then thought better of it, and decided to send Squish
and Husbro out the door, while I stayed home.
I also texted my MIL and SIL and told them to keep their phones close,
just in case. I knew it wasn’t “time” just yet, but I knew I was really close. Once the fam was gone, I decided I needed
breakfast, so I walked to the McDonald’s by my house. It’s about 6-7 blocks both ways, and I was
hoping it would get things kick started.
I waddled over, ate, waddled back, and then decided to have a hot
shower. After the shower, I decided a
nap was in order. I woke up at around
noon, and there was no more action. I was miffed, but kept my cool. They started to come back around 4 or so in
the evening, so I decided to download a tracker, and start keeping..track. The way it worked was you would hit it once
at the start of a contraction, and again when it was over. I did this for a few hours, and saw the
cramping was coming about 12-14 minutes apart, but still not strong at
all. I got up, cooked dinner, and texted
my SIL that I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to have the baby without
assistance. You see, with Squish, my
water broke and I never had a contraction, I ended up with Pitocin like 14 hrs
later. So I was starting to doubt that
my body knew how to contract on its own.
SIL responded that this is sometimes the case, a little help would not
hurt. I agreed, and got ready for
bed. I brought my tablet with me to keep
timing the contractions, but around 1 am, I decided to throw in the towel. They were nothing to write home about, and I
was just making myself anxious. Squish
lay in bed next to me, so I concentrated on being present with her, and
enjoying our last (however many) moments, as mommie and only child.
At about 4 am, I awoke in an absolute panic. My body was wracked in pain, and all I could
think was “I have to run away, I have to get away from whatever this is!” .
BUT, I couldn’t move because it hurt so much so I just writhed there until it
went away. Once it did, I got up and
went to the restroom, where I saw just a tinge of pink after I went potty, but
I knew that this was the infamous “bloody show”, and that it was time. I went into the living room so that Sugarbeet
could sleep while I was still in early labor.
I had another contraction bent over our easy chair, and then I spied my
arch nemesis: a tree roach had gotten into the house and was taunting me from
above a shelf on the wall above the tv. Noooooope. I went into the room and work up SB to come
and kill it. I couldn’t possibly
concentrate on laboring with that thing menacing me. So, I asked him to wake up to dispatch it, oh
and also btw, I’m in labor. LOL
Things were intense FAST, there was no build up. We emailed work, texted SIL, and let MIL know
that Squish was coming to stay with her.
Around 6, SIL was at the house.
She walked in while I was having a contraction, and I guess I was pretty
loud because she says “Man, we can’t be here already! If we’re already here,
we’re not going to have anywhere to go”…not what I wanted to hear, but I guess it
was true. SB woke our sleeping Squish
and took her to MIL’s. I thought saying
good bye to her would have been so emotional, but labor was already taking over
my brain, and I was pretty focused on that.
Up until this point I was listening to my Hypnobirthing
tracks, but that little old lady’s voice got SUPER annoying, so I asked SIL to
put on some regular music. She pulled up
our itunes, and I got to work; zoning in and out. The next few hours are a
blur. I would check in every hour to ask
how many hours it had been. You see, I
heard that second babies can take half the time as first. So since it was 8 hrs with Squish, surely
this time it would be only four, right? Right.
SIL kept on timing my contractions for me, and they were around 5-7 minutes
apart. I labored on my couch sitting up
with pillow behind me, with my legs Indian style. We tried me standing and I
about died, and I also tried with my legs flat on the floor, this too was
deadly. The only position that allowed
me to cope was on the couch, legs crossed.
At some point I got tired, and wanted to sleep in between
contractions, but I could lay my head back, since I was propped straight
up. I asked SB to get in front of me so
that I could lean my head forward and sleep that way. I’m not sure how long this went on, but at around
11 we made the call to the midwife. We
spoke and she said that I was still in early labor, I’m guessing because of how
I sounded, and because the contractions were still 5 minutes apart. She says
that if I like, I can come in to the office and have her check me. Sheesh, I
didn’t even get the offer to go to L&D! At this point I felt like I needed to settle
in for the long haul, and maintain my focus.
SB and SIL both said maybe I should get in the bath for a little, but
that sounded like a nightmare. SIL also insisted that I try to walk, in order
to get things moving, which once again, almost killed me. LOL. I stood up for
one contraction, and then refused to do it again. She tells me that my contractions are not
getting any closer together, and that I should consider walking to help them
along. This suggestion is met with utter refusal.
Then around 2:30, I realize that I am not coping well, at
all. I decided I needed to go to the
restroom, but needed to wait till in between contractions, since I had terrible
memories of the contraction I had while on the potty with Squish. I was pretty sure I was going to die when
that happened, so I didn’t want it again. So I hurried, but on my way back,
started to have a contraction. SB was
out loading the car, so SIL got behind me to apply counter pressure while I
rocked on the arm of the couch. Then it
began to peak, so I turn around, grabbed her hands, and ended up on the floor
in a deeeep squat. I didn’t know how deep till I realized my butt was sweeping
the ground. LOL. While this was going on, decided that I was in
transition. I also remembered that this
stage can last from 30 minutes to hours, and I didn’t have hours of this in
me. So I said “We have to go NOW”. Either this baby was coming, or I was getting
meds, but I knew I couldn’t be at home anymore.
We got in the car, my worst, absolute WORST nightmare, and
started towards the hospital. This was a
nightmare for me because I knew that being in a comfortable position is the
best way for me to cope with contractions, and the car is NOT comfortable. I had three contractions in the car, all of
which I could do nothing but scream through.
Maybe it was a yell…a loud, high pitched moan? At any rate, things were
very vocal in the car. I only opened my
eyes twice during the 15 minute ride to the hospital, and we arrived just that
quickly, with me clutching the headrest, and directing SB were to go to get
valet/patient drop off.
SIL and I got out of the car, and are walking to the
elevators, when I have another contraction.
I lean forward on SIL and rock and sway, this one is pretty light, not
too bad, but I think that was only apparent to me, as Security asked if we
needed a wheel chair, which I refused.
We went up the 15 floors and a slight contraction later, I get whisked
past reception, and lead SIL back to the area where the midwives have their
exam rooms/offices. We go in, and SB joins us as the midwife comes in to do my
exam. I told myself all the way to the hospital,
that if she did the exam, and it didn’t hurt, then I was probably ready to
go. She did the exam, it did not hurt,
and she said that I was ready to go! Now this should have brought some sort of
relief over me, but it did not. I asked
when I would be able to push, and she said as soon as we get downstairs to
L&D, but I did not find this comforting.
My SIL said that I had already done all of the hard work, but when
you’re in the throes of it, hard and easy mean nothing. You only want to hear done and over. They bring in a wheelchair, I have another
contraction, SB is there to hold me while I squat down to the floor, which
alarms the midwife because she’s scared that I’m about to have the baby right
there! We get on the elevator, ride
down, get me into my room, and have another low, squatting contraction on the
way to the bed.
I’m sitting up in bed now, trying desperately to push. But I
don’t feel like anything is happening. I
start to tell everyone that I can’t do it.
That this baby is not coming, and that I am helplessly lost on what to
do next except give up. Now mind you,
there is no give up, baby is coming, but now I feel like a spectator more than
a participant. Like I can’t do what
needs to be done to get this over. I go on like this for…maybe 10 minutes?. But
then I realize that I am not ready to push just yet. And it’s like at that very moment, a switch
went off. I breathed away a contraction,
then half of one, and then I began to push. This felt as if I was getting
nowhere again. The only way I can
describe it is trying to push your hand through a wall. You push, it pushes
back, and you don’t feel any movement. VERY different from Squish, and I think
that is why I struggled (besides not being ready yet) at the beginning. Pushing is supposed to feel good. But this
HURT, and I was not mentally prepared for that. BUT, there really is a part
where your body takes over and says ready or not. So, I
got to pushing. I pushed once, and I
heard the midwife tell me that I was going to feel a lot of burning, ah yes,
the infamous Ring of Fire. Didn’t have that with Squish, and was determined not
to have it this time. I decided that if
it was going to hurt to have that area stretch, I was going to hurry up and get
him OUT. Lol. I push again, and continue getting that hand against a wall
feeling, then MASSIVE amounts of awful pressure (like super awful, think…the
biggest poop EVER lol!), then his head came out. So, I think I’m done, but I hear the midwife
say, ok, now lets get his shoulders out. What. THE FUDGE! Lol. Squish popped
out like a champagne cork, this guy is making me work for it. UGH. So I push,
his shoulder come, followed by the rest of him. 15:33 on 10/23/13. I look at
SIL and say “I’m never doing this again”, and everyone laughs.
I’m still sitting up, never did recline, so when she goes to
hand him to me, they have me lean slightly forward, since he apparently has a
short umbilical cord, WHICH wow, I found hard to believe considering all of the
rockin and rollin he did in there! They placed this hard rock baby in my hands,
LOL. I mean come on, baby girl is
nicknamed Squishy for a reason. This
little boy had a broad, high chest, and strong, full arms and legs. I think that’s why pushing was so different;
this guy was all muscle, with not a hint of “squish” to be found. I joke that I almost fell off the table when
they placed him in my arms. She asked me if I wanted to wait until the cord
stopped pulsing to which I said nooooope.
I knew that the placenta still needed to make its exodus, and so I was
anxious to get that over with. I’m not
sure if delaying cutting the cord has any impact, but I figured if it did, I
wanted that to be a quick as possible. I ended up with stiches, not too many
but enough to where I had them take the baby to get cleaned up, since it was
pretty painful. No epidural=no numbness for that carpet needle they use.
:::shudder::: They tell me he is 8lbs
5oz. Nice size, I think; a full pound heavier than Squish.
It was smooth sailing from there. I had all of the L&D nurses telling me to
coach my friends on coming in ready to push.
They said that I was “ideal”; in and out in 30 minutes or less! LOL.
Everyone remarked about how I didn’t look like I just had a baby. Honestly, I didn’t feel like it either. It
was strange. I just felt so normal so
fast. It was like immediate relief I
guess, after so many months of schlepping around all tired and heavy. My contractions never got closer than 5
minutes apart. I had no epidural, no IV, no Pitocin, no interventions
what-so-ever. I think all of that helped my body through the healing process,
along with my knowing what to expect. My
body said, “Yeah, we know what to do now, we’ve been through this before”, and
I was back up on my feet in no time!
SO, that is it. Here I sit, 3 months out reminiscing on
this, and slowly getting baby fever…HA!
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